How to Love and Accept Your Body

How to Love and Accept Your Body
No matter what your scale says, being comfortable in your own skin is up to you. It can be tough, in a society that prizes unrealistic images. But it's possible, and it starts with what you say when you look in the mirror. Here are some ways you can start to love and accept your body, incontinence and all.

1. Focus on what magnificent things your body allows you to do, rather than how it looks.

2. Keep an index card in your wallet or day planner with a list of 10 positive things about yourself, excluding physical attributes. Read it over when you get “fat head” (definition: thinking you are physically fat when you have a negative feeling). When this happens, say to yourself: “Fat is not a feeling. What emotion am I actually feeling underneath this?”

3. Wear clothes you like that feel comfortable, especially materials that feel luxurious against your skin.

4. Throw out your “thin clothes.” Only keep clothes that fit you really nicely now, and get rid of “the ones I’ll wear when I’m size ____ again.”

5. Do the activities you love to do regardless of your shape and size—don’t stop doing what you love because of what you look like on the outside.

6. Hang out with others who aren’t obsessed with their size and shape, and what they eat. Spend time with people who focus more on enjoying the fabulous gift called life instead.

7. Remind yourself that you are beautiful exactly as you are because you are a child of the Creator/God/the Universe/__________(fill in the blank).

8. Move your body in ways that leave you feeling strong, exhilarated, flexible and centered, and do it regularly.

9. Learn to tune in to your body: Eat when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Get out and move when your body needs it.

10. Stop reading fashion magazines and following movie stars, thinking they’ve got perfect lives. They don’t—some of them have full-blown eating disorders and other addictions./span>